The concept of adaptive preferences introduced by Martha Nussbaum challenges the idea of women’s preferences that comply with patriarchal standards. It questions whether choices made within the parameters of a patriarchal structure are genuine expressions of personal desire or mere conformity. Feminist intuition theorists argue that internalized gender roles may lead women to make choices that align with societal expectations, rather than being true reflections of their authentic selves. However, these theories are flawed as they suggest the existence of an authentic self unaffected by societal influences, which many believe to be impossible, as human behaviour is inevitably shaped by individuals’ surroundings and the ideologies they adhere to. Additionally, this creates somewhat of a dilemma as by judging women’s choices and questioning their autonomy, the very thing feminism fought so hard to establish, it can inadvertently deny women their autonomy. So, while it might be tempting to criticize women whose preferences seemingly conform to patriarchal norms, it is essential to respect their choices. It is crucial to recognise that not all choices made by women are inherently feminist, but that doesn’t diminish the importance of respecting diverse paths women may choose.
If we were to criticize women’s choices that align with patriarchal standards such as being a stay-at-home mum or even being a TikTok trendy trad wife this exposes the flaw of only upholding one standard of liberation. A common misconception in pop feminist discourse is the idea that liberation equates to adopting the same lifestyle and career
paths as men. The expectation for women to work like men and achieve financial success perpetuates a narrow definition of freedom. The emergence of “girl boss” culture has further fueled this narrative, implying that success and empowerment are measured by traditional masculine standards. This perspective can oversimplify the complex reality of women’s lives, reinforcing a binary and restrictive understanding of what it means to be liberated, and failing to acknowledge the value in a range of choices and expressions of empowerment that may not conform to conventional norms. Embracing a more inclusive and intersectional approach to feminism allows for the acknowledgment and celebration of the diverse array of women’s choices, dismantling the limitations imposed by a singular standard of liberation.
Now more than ever it is important that feminism is reshaped to embrace women’s autonomy and to carefully navigate the complexity of feminist choices. A growing number of young individuals perceive feminism as having done more harm than good, with critiques of modern feminism often centering on concerns like misandry, identity politics, insufficient dialogue with men, and a focus on performative aspects rather than tangible progress. While the current negative and cringe-worthy connotations of feminism may overshadow the movement’s core principles, it is crucial to refocus on the fundamental question of the movement: Are women materially and politically disadvantaged, and if so, how can we correct that?
In navigating the complex terrain of feminist choices, it is essential to strike a balance between recognizing the impact of societal influences and respecting individual autonomy.
The fluidity of feminism allows for a diversity of paths and choices without compromising the overarching goal of addressing and rectifying systemic inequalities. Ultimately, the legacy of the feminist movement lies not in sanctimonious attitudes and pop feminism but in advocating for tangible progress towards gender equality.
